I’ve heard many people say “never forget where you came from” or some variation of this warning to always honor your parents and respect your heritage. But what if you were born out of place or even in the wrong time? How do you respect your parents when all you were taught growing up is in opposition to your natural, authentic nature? Many people who don’t understand the difference between respect and submission, end up confused, frustrated and angry.
The thesaurus says that respect is similar to veneration, affection, appreciation and recognition. It says that honor is similar to respect, veneration, recognition and honesty. But, it says submission is similar to surrender, obedience and subservience.
At some point in the process of becoming a mature adult and finding your way in this world, you must decide what is true and right for you. Just because mom never went to college or dad works in a factory doesn’t mean you must do the same. Just because all of your grandparents and half your aunts and uncles are school teachers, doesn’t mean you have to be one too.
But, just because no one ever in the history of your known family has never done something doesn’t mean that you can’t do it either. So what if every woman in your family is a school teacher, goes to the Methodist church, bakes cookies on Saturday afternoon and lives in the same city, in the same state, even the same neighborhood as multiple generations before her? If you truly feel in your heart that you’re meant to travel the world, save endangered species and never call anywhere home for more than a few years, then this is your true nature coming through. Your longings, desires, and joy are God expressing himself/herself/themselves through you. If you ignore these longings and desires you may end up living a dull gray existence and miss real life altogether.
You can appreciate everything your parents, grandparents, and other relatives taught you and still be your own person. If someone is disappointed in you or angry at you for being your own person, that is their problem, that is an unresolved issue in them and has nothing to do with you. You can live a full, exciting life and still be grateful for your parents and what they taught you, whether it was good or bad, or whether it resonated with you or not; it taught you something. Quite possibly, it taught you what you do not want to do and who you do not want to be.
Do I believe we have soul contracts? Yes, I do. I belief we all agree to certain things before we incarnate in this life. And I reiterate, longings, desires, ambitions, joys, and peaceful expression are the Great Creator expressing and living through us.