Each of us has a different definition of freedom. Yet, no matter the individual definition, we all search, work, strive, seek, hunger and thirst for freedom. Sometimes the bondage we long to be free from is of our own making and sometimes it is not. There is a psychological term “Stockholm Syndrome”, which refers to a condition where a person being held hostage begins to connect with, and in some cases feel true affection for their captor. This is a survival mechanism the mind and heart use to validate the captive situation, making it tolerable.
But what if you are holding your self hostage? What if the situation you long to be free from is of your own making? Often we stay in less than perfect situations simply because they’re familiar to us. I once had a friend in an abusive relationship tell me that she would leave when the pain of staying was greater than the pain of leaving. She knew she didn’t deserve to be where she was, she took responsibility for allowing the situation to evolve, but she could still find familiar comfort in the day to day of her life, enough so, that leaving was too scary, too unsure, too risky.
While her story is a rather extreme example, we all do this to some degree. We tell ourselves its not that bad, that the prize, glory, or even normal success belong to someone else who is more educated, harder working, or more savvy. What we’re really telling ourselves is our current situation is familiar. It may not be perfect, but we know the demons of our day to day life. “Better the devil we know, than the devil we don’t.”
When we allow ourselves to be captive to situations that are against our Divine destiny, we are mistaking familiar for safe. Becoming immersed in the day to day mundane activities of our lives can make safe and familiar feel the same, but they’re not. Safe is when you are comfortable with yourself. You are in balance with yourself, while operating in unstable, unpredictable, surroundings and functioning at full capacity without fear of the next moment, hour, day, week, or month. There are very few guarantees or constants in the Universe, so staying balanced with yourself is the only true safe place. When you become your own safety net, your own safe place, then you are truly free.
If you or anyone you know needs guidance or help in escaping from a less than perfect situation or help just finding your own internal balance point, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.