I noted in an earlier blog that part of being ‘Spiritual’ is don’t cheat on your spouse/spousal equivalent. But what is “cheating” really? Obviously, if you are dating more than one person at a time, having any intimate physical contact with someone other than your spouse/spousal equivalent, or even allowing flirting to lead someone on, then, yes, you are cheating. The dictionary defines fidelity in part as: devotion, loyalty, faithfulness, trustworthiness, honesty, and sincerity. When you read this list, do any word(s) make you uncomfortable? I once had a friend accuse her husband of “emotional” cheating. He laughed at her, because, he didn’t understand her position. She thought he had gotten too close to a co-worker. She was completely sure there was nothing physical between them, however, she felt the amount of personal information they shared with each other was inappropriate. I have another friend who caught her husband watching adult movies. She admitted she had not been in the mood for several weeks because she was pregnant. Two different scenarios, do either or both qualify as “cheating”? Without getting into unnecessary details, yes, both situations could qualify as cheating.
In an intimate Spiritual bond between two people, fidelity is not just a physical commitment, it is also, a mental and emotional pledge to only share certain parts of yourself with your spouse/spousal equivalent. To commit with your spouse/spousal equivalent that the two of you create an energy together which you both hold sacred and protect from the outside world.