One of the 10 Commandments is Thou Shalt Not Covet…or Envy. It doesn’t matter whether you consider yourself Religious or even Spiritual, or if you agree with the separation of church and state. The 10 Commandments have some great guidelines for just being a good person.
We have all had run ins with the green eyed monster. Maybe we didn’t realize it at the time, but trust me, we’ve all been jealous at sometime in our life. As with any negative emotions, jealousy doesn’t hurt anyone but the one feeling it. If you allow yourself to be jealous it will only cause you stress and push the thing, person, circumstance you’re coveting farther away. Jealousy is a prison of emotions. It blocks the free give and take necessary for healthy relationships. It doesn’t just destroy trust in the relationship, but in all the extenuating circumstances surrounding the relationship.
Jealousy comes from insecurity and lack of confidence. When you’re jealous, you’re telling yourself you’re not as good as someone else, or that you’re not worthy of having what someone else has or of succeeding or reaching a goal. Jealousy creates an emotional war inside of you, part of you throwing a temper tantrum, insisting you should have this object, person, circumstance and another part of you saying you’re not good enough, smart enough, rich enough, whatever standard of measure you’re using against yourself. You are only warring against yourself, no one else. So until you decide to end the war and love yourself first, you’ll probably not reach the goal. Remember, love yourself first and most everything else will fall into place.
If you’re having trouble with jealousy or any other negative emotion, and need someone to listen, contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org