Swords and shields probably brings to mind a picture of knights in shiny armor, ladies in waiting, and medieval castles. As you know, I love this stuff. Although I’m pretty sure in those former lives, I was the knight and not sitting around waiting on some man to rescue me.
Thankfully, in these modern times, its illegal to kill or even wound others with swords. However, we all have weapons much deadlier than any sword; our words and attitudes. Yes, words are weapons and can cause egregious wounds and so too can our attitudes even when our mouths are silent. And while the wounds heal (eventually), the scars may last a lifetime. So the first point I’m making is be careful with your words, but also your attitude, body language and facial expressions; especially with children, they are extremely sensitive and pick up on things adults miss at least on a conscious level. We all pick up on these subconsciously.
Secondly, once the wounds heal and the scars form, what do you do with those internal scars? We all have them. Sometimes we don’t even realize the scars are there. We call them defense mechanisms, or being on guard, or even caution. Which may be a good thing to a very limited degree. But at some point, we have to let go of the scars, we have to move on and take risks. Far too often, we use old scars, from old battles which have nothing to do with our life today, as a shield to protect us from future wounds. And the truth is, the scar you’re using to shield yourself from a future wound, is really only preventing you from possibly finding new joy and happiness in the present situation. Because you may have kept that shield up for so long, you didn’t notice the old battle was over and there’s no longer a need to fight.
Emotional and spiritual scars are often just as thick and heavy as any physical scar, and may be just as ugly. If you would like help dealing with these scars, you may contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org.