Easier said than done. Especially since this post is about self-love. Loving yourself unconditionally is the only way you will ever be loved by others and even more important, it is the only way to raise your vibrations to the level necessary to attract, manifest and create.
We all pay lip service to loving ourselves. But the truth is most of us, especially we healers, still put others first when we should be taking care of ourselves and addressing our own needs first. A few weeks ago, I wrote a blog regarding the difference between wants and needs. Many of us were taught at a very young age that needs are only the basics; food, clothing, and a roof over our heads. Think back to your childhood; try to recall the situations, people and material objects which made you truly happy. These are still part of you. Many of us were taught by well-meaning parents to be quiet, care more about math than philosophy and to be grateful for what we have. Which, I agree we should be grateful for what we have, because the vibration of grateful attracts more to be grateful for. But those situations, people, and material objects which made (make) you truly happy are needs, not wants. You knew as a child who you were on a soul level, you knew what you needed to truly be the you which Divine Creator made you to be and what you needed to fulfill your divine destiny.
Unconditional love for yourself is going back to that feeling from childhood; that feeling that brought you total peace and pure joy. Where were you, who were you with, and what did they do to make you feel this peace joy? What were your dreams when you were five, ten or even fifteen? Your divine destiny is tied into these dreams and your divine purpose will be revealed when you are able to restore those feelings and images. True needs, your truest needs are those things which will allow you to live your divine destiny and be the you – you were meant to be. Allow yourself to have those situations, people, material possessions which stir your soul and cause your spirit to soar and you will know what your divine destiny truly is.
And parents, please see this in your children. Needs are more than basics and they know from the womb their divine destiny, it may seem illogical or even silly, but the Divine Creator has a plan for every soul. Listen to their little hearts and help them grow into their destinies.