Nurture Your Inner Child

When you were very young, what did you pretend to be? A fairy, a cowboy, a princess, a super hero?  We all had our fantasies, but as we matured the fantasies gave way to what appeared to be more practical ideals. Yet, on a lazy afternoon, or deep in our dreams, sometimes we still find the fantasies reaching back to us. We should never ignore these longings, we should embrace them with every fiber of our being. Nurturing the fantasies of the inner child are essential for balanced mental health.

For you fairies (no pun intended) out there, think about what fairies are best known for, they play in gardens, dance in the moonlight, and they like bright, shiny, objects.  How do you embrace this?  Plant a garden. Flowers, vegetables, herbs, whatever warms your heart and makes you smile.  Even some men enjoy gardening.  And for those of you who live in apartment buildings, you can have window boxes and/or house plants. Once the plants are growing, adorn them with garden orbs, wind chimes, flags, you can even decorate little fences with bright metalic paint.  Your inner fairy will be very happy.

For the cowboys out there, if you don’t really live in the country find a horse stable and make arrangements to ride on a regular basis.  If you’ve never ridden before, there are many people willing to teach you and trust me on this, most horses are gentle and patient.  Also, camping is a great way to exercise your inner cowboy.  But don’t go in an RV or trailer, you have to at least sleep in a tent.

The inner princess still knocking on your heart?  Take up fashion designing.  It really doesn’t matter if you’re artisitc, draw the clothing, buy a sewing machine and make a few small things.  Or design hair ornaments, jewelry or scarves and belts. You don’t have to make a living, just something to exercise the longings and let the inner child come out and play.

Superhero more you style. Volunteer to work at a soup kitchen to cook or serve the needy, a nursing home to organize games or just visit with residence who have no regular visitors, or a school maybe reading to the children, or helping with sports, or other extracurricular activities.  You’ll be a real hero to the people you’ll be helping and you’ll feel amazing about yourself.

And finally, with Halloween just around the corner, there is nothing wrong with buying or renting a costume just for one day.  If you’re having trouble connecting with a fantasy, looking at costumes may help you. The costume you’re most drawn to or feel the most comfartable with will tell you alot about your inner child.  Plus, many people still organize costume parties, and if no one you know is throwing a party, then you throw one.  Costumes parties are just as much fun for adults as for kids and are another great way to nuture your inner child.

I’m curious to hear from all of you, what you most long(ed) to be and what costume you would pick for a party.

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Fashion for Comfort

This is totally off topic for me because today’s post is about fashion. I know I normally (at least I try) come across as the enlightened spiritual guru.  Well, I am, yet at the same time, I love jewelry, shoes and clothes. Even on the weekends when I’m doing very human things like laundry, vacuuming, and grocery shopping (remember its very spiritual to be human when the occasion calls for it) I have on nice jeans and pretty tops, or a sundress, I put on make-up, do my hair and usually at least have earrings in.  I do this for me. What I do with my outside is a reflection of my inside.

It is also very in line with the law of attraction. When we bath, apply lotion and sweet smelling perfumes, oils, etc.; when we wear nice jeans and pretty tops; adorning ourselves with makeup, jewelery and even cute shoes; we are proclaiming to the Universe: “I am valuable!”  We are feeling, displaying, and living fully into our Divine worth.

But as always, this is unique to each person. The guys out there may be much more comfortable in raggedy jeans and a stained t-shirt. These articles may have some intense memory attached or they may just be so worn they feel like a second skin. With the law of attraction how the clothes and fashion accessories make us feel is far more important than how they look.  But if you can feel great and look great at the same time, this is a double whammy.  I follow a couple fashion blogs, I surf the web for clothes and shoes, and I compare make-up colors, claims, and brands, because feeling comfortable with me fashion choices is very important to me. I have a couple dresses I look amazing in, but they are for special occasions only, because after only a couple hours in them, I’m so miserable, I’m swearing I’ll never wear them again (they’re still hanging in the closet waiting for me to need them).

The point is, you should allow your physical appearance to reflect how you wish to be seen, understood, and it should also be a statement of how you view yourself even when the only person seeing you is you. What you present (put out) even to yourself, is what you get back.

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Love and the Law of Attraction

Today will be a short, upbeat post. I have a busy weekend as it’s William’s birthday on Sunday. So, today a short post regarding love and the Law of Attraction. We all want to be loved, but do you realize how much you want someone you can love?

To use the Law of Attraction, you do for yourself all the things you wish a mate would do with you. It’s that simple. You want someone who will have a drink with you while watching the sunset? Pour yourself a drink and watch the sunset while really appreciating the beauty and peace you have during these moments. You want someone to help with the house work? While doing your own housework, smile, listen to feel good music, even dance or just sing along. And here’s a biggie. You want someone who sees you as beautiful, handsome, sexy, appealing? Take care of yourself every day. Ladies, do your hair and makeup even when your home doing housework or just hanging out watching tv and resting. Gentlemen, take a shower, comb that hair, and no ball hats. Put on some clothes that aren’t ragged or torn. A little perfume or aftershave and smile. If you already have a mate and you want to improve the relationship, these little steps go a long way. To attract or even improve an existing relationship, you must be the same type of person you want in the relationship.

The point of Law of Attraction working with Love: the measure of how much we love ourselves is the measure of how much others will love us.

Happy Friday and Have a Great Weekend.

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Law of Attraction Part 2

Today I’m using myself as the example for how Law of Attraction helps with weight issues. Growing up I was very slim. Not bean pole thin, I had hips, breasts and a few curves, but I was thin. So, I know what thin feels like. Then at 24, pregnant with my daughter, my hormones and metabolism went haywire. In only nine months I gained 70 lbs. My blood pressure stayed down, there really wasn’t any water retention, I was just fat! I gave new meaning to the expression “beached whale.” And, no, my daughter only weighed 6 lbs, 15oz. The rest was me. I wore my maternity clothes home from the hospital after she was born. In fact, I wore maternity clothes for almost 4 more months and then had to buy…wait for it…size 14 pants.  What did I do?

To start with, I found pictures of myself from before all the weight gain. If you don’t have pictures of yourself the size you want to be, find pictures of models who you want to emulate. Do Not! put them on the refrigerator. This will only make you angry and law of attraction doesn’t work when you’re mad. Take these pictures of the way you want to look and carry them with you. At work, in restaurants, anywhere you’re tempted to eat wrong. When you start thinking you’ll have a donut instead of yogurt or, dessert instead of salad, take the picture out, look at it and then look down at your stomach, thighs, etc.

Make a list or a vision board of what you and your life will look like when you lose the weight. Will you go on vacation? Don’t wait until you lose all the weight, take a winter vacation to comfort yourself. Thinking you’ll buy a new car? Why wait? Buy the car now. Many of us use food as a comfort or to replace something we think is missing in our lives. If these things weren’t missing, we might not turn to food as often.

Splurge now. Go buy something at least 2 sizes too small. Something you will look amazing in. Hang it in the closet and look at it about 3-4 times a week. Again, do not hang it up where you can see it every time you walk by, remember, anger makes things worse. FYI, this one trick helped me the most. I had a beautiful, lacy pink top that I couldn’t wait to wear. Also, reward yourself for milestone progress. For every 5-10 pounds that come off, buy yourself something, like new pants, top or dress. Start revamping your wardrobe while you lose the weight. Guys, this goes for you also. Side note, as your clothes become too big, donate them or give them away. Get them away from you, this way, you have nothing to fall back on and if you gain a little back, you’ll have more incentive to lose it because your clothes will be uncomfortable.

Start an exercise routine. I got up 30 minutes early everyday just to exercise in my family room. Anything that gets your blood pumping. If your thing is walking, take one of those pictures with you on the walk and really meditate on how you’ll feel when you’re that size.

Finally, diet pills only work short term. To keep the weight off, you need lifestyle changes. Eating healthier and exercising more are the two most important things. However, if you’re like me and have a sweet tooth then pick one or two days each week (No More than 2!) when you eat dessert. My favorite, is usually on Sunday mornings I make cinnamon rolls or some other danish in place of traditional breakfast. Or I buy single pieces of pie or cake in the deli of my grocery store for Friday or Saturday dessert.

Law of Attraction brings more of what you are concentrating on into your life. To change what you’re thinking about, start making the small changes. You’ll start noticing many of the new things show up without you doing anything. Be grateful, accept them, welcome them and make them part of the new you. As more new shows up, start getting rid of the old, immediately. For all the changes you want, stop thinking ‘maybe someday.’ Why not today?

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Scents Smells Odors and Other Olfactory Essences

Did you know our sense of smell is attached to our emotions? Scents, odors, fragrances, stir our emotions as much or possibly more than sight or sound? My point? Too much of a good thing is bad. You get in the elevator and end up standing next to a man wearing an entire bottle of aftershave. Or, you’re in line at the grocery store and the lady in front of you obviously bathed in her perfume.

So, today’s post is a fashion tip for the nose. Ladies and gentlemen, we all appreciate when others smell clean and look their best. We also appreciate passing by and getting just a whiff of cologne or aftershave. But it’s possible to over do it. Just like putting too much sugar in your cookies or too much salt in your casserole, too much cologne ruins the overall package.

Ladies, there are two ways to apply just the right amount of perfume. If you have a spray bottle spray the mist into the air in front of you and then immediately step into the falling mist. Do this with your head down so the mist falls into your hair and onto your shoulders and clothing.  If you have to apply with your fingers, lightly coat the tip of one finger, rub the same finger on the opposite hand and then touch your temples in your hair line. Yes, put it in your hair. You can also add some on the crown of your head, but again, put it in your hair. If this is a special occasion, you can also put just a drop in the bend of your arms (front of the elbows) and right behind the knee. No more.

Gentlemen, with regard to aftershave, just a couple drops in your palms, rub your hands together and then across your cheeks, chin and neck…really spread those two drops out over your skin, then stop. If you use a good cologne, you can use it in place of aftershave, but please don’t use them together. If you tend to sweat and are worried about body odor, use a good deodorant which compliments your cologne, then if you want, one drop, just one,  about one inch below the waist band of your underwear. It doesn’t matter if you sweat there or not, your body temperature is higher in that area and will emit the odor of your cologne in a subtle way as your body temperature fluctuates.

And finally, for men and women both, if you can smell yourself after ten minutes, you’ve used to much.

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