When you were very young, what did you pretend to be? A fairy, a cowboy, a princess, a super hero? We all had our fantasies, but as we matured the fantasies gave way to what appeared to be more practical ideals. Yet, on a lazy afternoon, or deep in our dreams, sometimes we still find the fantasies reaching back to us. We should never ignore these longings, we should embrace them with every fiber of our being. Nurturing the fantasies of the inner child are essential for balanced mental health.
For you fairies (no pun intended) out there, think about what fairies are best known for, they play in gardens, dance in the moonlight, and they like bright, shiny, objects. How do you embrace this? Plant a garden. Flowers, vegetables, herbs, whatever warms your heart and makes you smile. Even some men enjoy gardening. And for those of you who live in apartment buildings, you can have window boxes and/or house plants. Once the plants are growing, adorn them with garden orbs, wind chimes, flags, you can even decorate little fences with bright metalic paint. Your inner fairy will be very happy.
For the cowboys out there, if you don’t really live in the country find a horse stable and make arrangements to ride on a regular basis. If you’ve never ridden before, there are many people willing to teach you and trust me on this, most horses are gentle and patient. Also, camping is a great way to exercise your inner cowboy. But don’t go in an RV or trailer, you have to at least sleep in a tent.
The inner princess still knocking on your heart? Take up fashion designing. It really doesn’t matter if you’re artisitc, draw the clothing, buy a sewing machine and make a few small things. Or design hair ornaments, jewelry or scarves and belts. You don’t have to make a living, just something to exercise the longings and let the inner child come out and play.
Superhero more you style. Volunteer to work at a soup kitchen to cook or serve the needy, a nursing home to organize games or just visit with residence who have no regular visitors, or a school maybe reading to the children, or helping with sports, or other extracurricular activities. You’ll be a real hero to the people you’ll be helping and you’ll feel amazing about yourself.
And finally, with Halloween just around the corner, there is nothing wrong with buying or renting a costume just for one day. If you’re having trouble connecting with a fantasy, looking at costumes may help you. The costume you’re most drawn to or feel the most comfartable with will tell you alot about your inner child. Plus, many people still organize costume parties, and if no one you know is throwing a party, then you throw one. Costumes parties are just as much fun for adults as for kids and are another great way to nuture your inner child.
I’m curious to hear from all of you, what you most long(ed) to be and what costume you would pick for a party.